Nobody can tell you what to do…but discern…would be the best advice I think.. But it is also a product of the environment in which priests live for all the reasons mentioned in the first paragraph of this section above. What is going on in his heart is euphoric and at the same time frightening. He learned theology on books, most probably, but he was never trained to find God in common people…. I don’t know how to deal with this horrific heartache I have. This is particularly true for priests who are “lifers”, i.e. Thanks for the comment yes your right I have a broken heart but I did not want to leave my calling with in the church. If so, go to https://www.e-ir.info/2013/07/28/papal-politics-paul-vi-and-vatican-ii-the-reassertion-of-papal-absolutism/. Our Call is from God and it was profound. Then he asked me not to phone him anymore and blanked me when I smiled at him as we passed in the church. “Mandated celibacy” gives the impression that f**king is what marriage is all about and tends to turn women into sexual objects. Even though they know this, most priests still yearn for a significant other with whom they can have a close, intimate relationship. of unkindness and gossip. anyway my question is why he is kind of avoiding me, he dont reply my message or what so ever, but if we meet he still the same as we are before? To answer it’s a long story to try and make it short it all began when I was studying and she met me and she said it was love at first sight we both got on very well. But, like Toto in the Wizard of Oz, this crisis has pulled back the curtain and no amount of incense can hide the little man pulling the levers. There are struggles because we can’t marry and I believe he does not want to leave priesthood but I’m okay with that, knowing that he is my twin flame and not able to abandon this relationship as I know by experience, I am just happy to have him. wouldn’t it just be a waste of life? How do you meet you said he was from a different country where was he from? They don’t even believe that catholics are christians. Please check your spam folder. The sixteenth century reformers were correct when they taught marriage is a divine right that no ecclesiastical law can negate. Right time will come and he will fight for the love we shared. He is but a man who has a heart that could fall in love. From your starting point there can be no discussion since you regard priesthood and marriage to be ENTIRELY INCOMPATIBLE CALLINGS. Without sacrifice there is no love I guess am I happy? I’ve never liked clergy men and it’s not a trend I’m about to start.
I don’t know if the readers know of any free counselling…..maybe online…Please readers give your views to help one of our readers. Then you can receive the sacrament. Go and sublimate your very human and beautiful desire. Just wanted to say I love reading through your blog and look forward to all your posts!
If the Church’s hierarchy were honest, it would acknowledge the high percentage of priests who are gay and affirm their ministry. Thanks for speaking about the taboo. While these priests can have a profound sense of Call, celibacy never really finds a home within their hearts, regardless of the spiritual facade their bishops or spiritual directors attempt to wrap it in. Afther that, I was very depressed and I was crying a lot. I know of a married individual, a Baptist, who had a woman on the side. Please check your spam folder. I too have had a similar experience with a priest and I’m a celibate woman. Daniel, can I email privately? I really thought that from time to time I would regret my decision, but I never have. Thanks for sharing. I adore my parish priest as he does me! In my first few months of counseling priests, I was shocked at the kinds of mayhem they could cause.
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What about their own family members? Period. I’d hate to put an awkward rift between us, but I just want to move forward into a positive direction in my life.
He became mean and rude to me.
some people asking me why i just dont leave my husband? In this way, he can be honest and express his love in the light of day, rather than in the shaming shadows of celibacy, where now his lover is also required to live. There seems to be little room in this new Church for reasonable, Spirit-guided change, so many priests find it necessary to leave. Leave that priest to work for God. To all the women who have been hurt by priests who love them but are afraid to come out from behind their collars: your honesty, integrity and courage are an inspiration. He wants to have you and his priesthood at the same time. What evidence can you produce? He was so important for me..I really saw in him my father, but our relations were always very cold. Hey! So the priest who thinks he is not betraying his vows or hurting anyone by falling in love and encouraging loving, albeit not sexual, responses from a woman and then walking away , is just as guilty as the lay man who picks up a woman for a one-night stand and never intends to contact her again. It’s ironic that church officials, obsessed with controlling priests’ sex lives by mandating celibacy, have themselves created this sex abuse crisis. For a reflection about the decision to marry click, . I am very sad and feeling upset right now and I am sure when I write this you will understand, I didn’t want to keep any contact as I wanted everything to stop and I need time to get myself together however something unimaginable happened she was killed in a car accident ;( it’s all just ended like this I feel so depressed and hurt the person I loved Is now gone forever I am feeling so lost and dead now. All of this sloppy sentimentalism expressed in this article is not in accordance with the Will of God expressed through the traditon of celibacy in the Church which according to the most serious studies, is of apostolic origin. jack i am not making accusations but i hope to understand from the priests point of view. The term “mandatory celibacy” implies that a priest is to abstain from sexual activity.